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Someone said something to me recently that I really struggled with. I actually got irritated at the audacity of these words. Although the remark didn’t initially sit right with me, I withheld expressing my disagreement with it, but I know my body language signaled how unnerved I felt about someone saying something so definitively “black and white”.

Your “two cents worth” — is it worth that much?
Mind you, it wasn’t a comment aimed at me, personally. It was just something that struck me as antagonistic, “in your face” and uncompromising. The thirteen words he spoke came across as very dogmatic.

Here’s what was said: “Until you get your facts straight, you aren’t authorized to have an opinion.”   

See what I mean?

Again, the person who said this was speaking generally, not directing the comment to me about anything I had said or done. It was a generic statement to anyone expressing an opinion… when the person doing so does not know all the facts.  

After a day or two of stewing about it, it finally occurred to me why I was instantly irritated with those thirteen words. It was a double whammy. First, I knew in my heart that what my friend said is true, but it was stated in a way that seemed too brash and condescending (but it was still true and I knew I’d have to deal with it). And second, anytime an un-yielded right gets exposed, it is, well, irritating. Irritating to my inner spoiled brat, that is. I’ll explain.

First, yes it’s true: Until you get your facts straight, you aren’t authorized to have an opinion.

Authorized by who? Everybody. That’s who.

Let’s think about this. The dirty little secret about opinions is that they are usually expressed by people who literally haven’t a clue what they are talking about. They do not have their facts straight. However, we listen without judgment because, after all, it’s just an opinion, right?

And unfortunately, too often, you and I engage in this lazy habit ourselves(!) when we ought to be enquiring about the credibility of the opinion being voiced. And we should also refrain from expressing our own point of view unless and until we know the facts of the matter ourselves.

What am I really describing? Gossiping, rumor-mongering and backbiting. See, when I put it that way, sharing opinions with others doesn’t sound quite as innocent and innocuous, does it? When you harbor and/or share “information” and when your perspective about someone or something lacks a complete picture of the situation, you’re really not rendering an opinion at all. You’re dealing in gossip and rumors. That’s all.   

Here’s a proposition. Imagine how it would be if every time someone shared their “opinion” about something with someone else, the ‘someone else’ spoke up and assertively, but diplomatically, asked whether the purveyor of the “opinion” really knows all the relevant facts of the matter. What do you think the answer would be (if they answered back honestly)? Of course, it would be No.

What, then, is the value of such an opinion (if it can be called an opinion at all)?    

So, who authorizes opinions? Who decides whether your point of view on a certain matter is a genuine opinion to be taken seriously, versus a mere rumor or morsel of gossip? Everyone who cares about integrity and credibility. That’s who. The universe of people that deserve to know the truth and, thereby, make sound judgments about what they learn. That’s who. Pretty much everybody. That’s who.   

Until you get your facts straight, you aren’t authorized to have an opinion because, until you get your facts straight, you can’t say you have an actual opinion! Isn’t that just self evident?

Do you want to have a reputation as someone with integrity and credibility? This is a good place to start: make sure you’ve got your facts straight well before you decide you’ve got an opinion. And make it a rule of life…

  • That you won’t ever utter, out loud, so that others can hear it, an un-formed opinion;
  • That you won’t ever judge and/or condemn someone for saying or doing certain things when you don’t know for a fact that they said or did those things (and even then, having a complete understanding of the context); and
  • That you will not choose to be angry (or sad… or happy, for that matter) regarding a situation about which you do not know all the facts

Become known as someone who constrains himself or herself by choosing to live by the above three-part rule and you’ll likely gain a reputation as having integrity and credibility.

So, the first reason I reacted the way I did: I knew my friend’s declaration is 100% true and I knew it the moment I heard it. In the next post, I’ll explain why it ticked me off so much, which is the second reason I had such a visceral reaction to what my friend said.

By way of preview: that’s where my inner spoiled brat comes in, and the business of un-yielded rights.

For now, let those definitively “black and white” thirteen words stew with you for a couple days:

“Until you get your facts straight, you aren’t authorized to have an opinion.”

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  1. Jim Aitkins
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    Reblogged this on Obstacle Blaster and commented:

    Originally posted August 7, 2011, this two part post is one of the most-read at Obstacle Blaster. Hope you enjoy and that you accept my invitation to share links to these, and other Obstacle Blaster articles, far and wide. — Jim Aitkins

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